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How To Stop Languishing And Start Flourishing
We compiled our 10 favorite mood boosting tips that will help you feel happier and thrive in your daily life!
If you’ve been feeling down in the dumps lately, take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. According to a recent article from the New York Times, the majority of America is feeling the same way. The general mood of 2021 has everyone feeling a bit joyless and aimless, a state which has been dubbed as “languishing.” While the majority of people aren’t classified as depressed or mentally ill, there is certainly a prevalent atmosphere of stagnation, emptiness, and a lack of motivation, which likely resulted from the range of intense emotions we endured throughout the COVID-19 pandemic.
Here at DABL, we want to help you live your best life to the fullest every single day. Instead of languishing, we want you to be flourishing. Therefore, we compiled a list of 10 mood boosting actions that will help you feel happier and start thriving again.
Name your emotions.
One of the best ways to manage negative emotions is to name them. Identifying your emotions can be a big relief, and will also validate what you are feeling. Once you understand which emotion is causing you angst, you are better prepared to do something about it.
Similarly, you may find it helpful to talk about your emotions with a trusted friend or family member. It’s often better to get what you are feeling off your chest than let the emotions bottle up and fester in your subconsciousness. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone you already know or feel you have crossed from languishing into depression, consider making an appointment with a therapist. Therapists are non-judgmental professionals who can give you strategies and exercises to help you overcome negative emotions. They can also give you advice from an outside perspective that close friends and family members cannot.
Give yourself uninterrupted time.
We live in a stressful world where we are constantly being pulled in different directions while also being interrupted by our coworkers, bosses, children and other obligations. All the while, tasks are piling up in the background. This toxic cycle can easily leave us feeling defeated and burnt out. In order to combat this, try to give yourself some uninterrupted time each day to let yourself catch up without distractions. Studies show that having this time to yourself significantly increases productivity, and with it, feelings of joy and motivation that come from making good progress.
Take a break from social media.
Social media is a great way to keep in touch with friends and family members, but it can also be a toxic forum to someone who is languishing. Scrolling through feeds to see happy, perfect memories and smiling model-esque people can take a toll on someone who is unhappy. Even though it’s common knowledge that many social media posts are carefully selected and edited to only show the posters at their best, it still can cause someone who is languishing to feel jealous, isolated, or even heighten feelings of unhappiness. Languishers may even start to question if there is something wrong with them to prevent them from feeling happy, or think that they may be undeserving of joy.
Instead of going down a rabbit hole of negativity, consider taking a break from social media. Don’t expose yourself to posts that will make you feel upset. Instead of living your life for “the ‘gram’, live your best life for yourself without worrying about your next post or what others may be doing or thinking. At the very least, try to take breaks from social media during the day, or implement boundaries where you don’t use social media during dinner or after a certain hour.
Take it one step at a time.
Many people who are struggling with languishing find that they are frequently overwhelmed. If you are already someone with a lot of responsibilities, you may know this feeling all too well. Instead of looking at the big picture and all the tasks you have to complete, try to focus on just one thing at a time. Take it step-by-step, and devote your energy to just the task in front of you instead of trying to do everything at once.
Engage in activities that bring you joy.
Everyone needs an outlet to relax and unwind, which is exactly why you should make time for your hobbies or to engage in activities you enjoy. Whether you discovered a new hobby during the pandemic or want to return to a hobby from your past, we encourage you to make time for the activities you love. If you’re in the market for a new hobby, taking up crafting and DIY projects or joining a club in your community may be a great place to start!
Bring purpose to your morning and bedtime routine.
Having a purposeful morning and evening routine will set you up for success, alleviate stress, and help you think more clearly. In the mornings, consider waking up earlier to make time to relax before the workday or get in an early morning workout. Try eating a healthy breakfast with foods that are shown to boost happiness, such as tomatoes, walnuts, pineapples, plums, kiwi or bananas. You may also find reciting affirmations about what you want to achieve during your day to be a beneficial tool to help you visualize and achieve your goals.
At the end of the day, prepare your body and mind for a restful night. Take some time to reflect on the day and prepare for tomorrow, but ultimately make sure you take some time to relax and unwind. Some ways to relax may include reading a book, watching a movie, or doing some selfcare. Many also say shutting off their phones and logging off social media accounts at least an hour before bed leads to less sleepless nights.
Start exercising more.
In addition to promoting physical health, exercise can also improve your mental health. When you exercise, your body releases chemicals and endorphins that boost feelings of well-being, and suppresses hormones that cause anxiety or stress. This doesn’t mean you have to spend all your time at the gym or become a professional athlete, but incorporating more exercise into your daily routine can certainly help you feel better quickly!
Give yourself something to look forward to.
When life is feeling boring or dull, you can make it more exciting by giving yourself something to look forward to! If it’s within your means, consider planning a trip or summer vacation for the coming months to somewhere you’ve always wanted to visit. If a long trip isn’t possible right now, look into planning a romantic weekend getaway with your spouse, or a day trip with some of your best friends.
That said, you can look forward to activities that aren’t a getaway. For example, you could plan a family BBQ, schedule a relaxing beach day, or start a countdown to the release date of a movie you’re eager to see. The possibilities are limitless!
Do good deeds.
Have you ever heard the saying: “It’s better to give than to receive”
People often say giving gifts or doing good deeds make them feel happier than when they receive a gift, and there is science to prove it! Known as a “helper’s high,” doing good deeds releases endorphins in your brain that makes you feel happy and satisfied. So if you are feeling down, helping someone else may hold the key to helping yourself! If you need inspiration for good deeds, consider starting by donating money to your favorite charity, volunteering at an organization you care about, or buying a drink or meal for someone in line behind you at a restaurant.
Start a gratitude journal.
Journaling your thoughts in general is a great way to come to terms with what you are feeling and find relief. However, we want to get a bit more specific. We encourage you to start a gratitude journal, where every day you reflect on the good in your life and write about at least one thing for which you are grateful. These things can be big or small, but the daily journal entries will ultimately help you become more aware of all the positives in your life and can boost your mood.